That's what I have learned so far, after our first wedding anniversary. My husband and I have been together for 6 years. We've been through lots of ups and downs, also long-distance like every normal couple. We're thankful for our marriage is blessed in the hand of God.
I am thankful for my husband's love and dedication in marriage. He's thoughtful enough to surprise me every time. He helps me grow and encourages me to be myself. He listens and talks enough for me to understand. His silence has a value and his words create volume. I know that I am not an easy woman to deal with and so is my husband. I guess that's why God put us together as we've formed the most difficult team ever, so we can learn to be patient towards each other, let loose and trust in God more.
Marriage is another level of commitment and responsibility. There are times we enjoy doing things together and times we prefer having our own spaces. That's normal for a balanced and healthy marriage. Having a hobby or things you enjoy doing is necessary for a long-term relationship, so you won't be on top of each other but still, live your life.
Love is beautiful, marriage is tough
It's true and you know why? When you're in love, getting married is the goal to show a long-term commitment. You think you're ready for marriage but when you start a marriage life and being with the one you love 24/7, then, you realise it's not the same as before. Of course, it's not because you've got to know every little thing about that person in daily life. You see flaws and imperfection. You get annoyed at each other. You suffer from each other. You learn more about each other. Marriage is the stage when the two love birds actually live a real-life picture as a team.
But that doesn't mean marriage isn't beautiful. Marriage is the result of love. It's beautiful in a whole new way with a completely different experience. Marriage won't flourish if there's no difficulties and challenges. When marriage overcomes toughness, it's the love that glows and lasts with time.
Marriage is when two become one
When you love and respect your partner like yourself, that's when you find the one voice of both. It takes lots of selfless and unconditional thoughts for each other. Every marriage has arguments, tough times and silly moments when you say hurtful things towards each other. Those bad times are normal and shouldn't take too much of your energy because they're just words of anger at the end of the day. Conversation with apology and forgiveness should take place instead to move on and become better for each other.
When marriage finds a common language, you will automatically understand your partner just through a look, a smile, a grump or a sigh.
Love and duty support each other to fulfil a marriage
Love and duty are not opposites of each other. Love requires a duty to exist. Loving someone requires you to be dutiful and responsible in how you demonstrate your care for your partner because it’s a conscious and mindful decision you make, every day of your life.
Duty requires love to continue. Doing something out of love and care for someone always gives your heart joy. Everybody wants to feel appreciated for the things they do and that's why giving credits to your partner will add more love to the duty both have for each other.
Marriage needs commitment, compliment and appreciation to fulfil and keep it stronger in the long run with life.
Happy wedding anniversary, my love!
Six years of being together have been an adventurous journey with you. I am proud of you and feel like the luckiest girl in the world to be your wife. We've been through tough times as a part of life, but thank you for holding on and not giving up. The road ahead will not be smooth and life will throw rocks at us, but I hope we'll remember this day for how we've started, how we've grown and tackled obstacles together.
I love the way you are and I enjoy seeing you being yourself. Cheers to more upcoming years conquer the world together!
Love you loads Xx
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