“Throw away all your expectations into the sea and let the waves take it far. Now live your life without it. That’s when you know how to love…”
How many times have you let yourself get stressed, disappointed or angry over small things? When life is not happening the way you expect, especially in love, what will you react and reflect at things?
Being in a relationship, you tend to expect a lot from your partner and that's how you start to build the attachment of feelings. It is not wrong to expect and love hard. However, the higher your expectation is, the bigger your frustration will be when bad things happen. As the attachment grows deeper towards your partner, the harder it will be to self-control. So, let's practice self-confidence by diminishing your expectation.
Let’s think about this. Expectation leads you to negative thoughts and forces you to judge how good or bad things are. When actually, nothing is completely good or bad in this life. The grass is just grass if you don’t like it. Children are just annoyed if you don’t like what they do. Life is just miserable if you think it’s miserable. It all depends on how you think and see things.
When you expect from your partner and if he/she can't satisfy or meet your expectation, you will definitely feel frustrated or disappointed at him/her. It will certainly lead to an argument. But if you don’t have any expectation, what he/she does is just his/her action or point of view. Then, you can easily accept it without getting upset or irritated.
What will happen if you travel to a place and it turns out not like what you imagine? Will you feel upset, grumpy or moody for the whole trip? It’s actually not the place’s fault. It’s just how it is. Your expectation is the problem.
Your expectation is the reason for your disappointment. If you love him/her and you think you can accept the way he/she is, then you shouldn’t have any expectation. You cannot change anyone. All you can do is just support and help him/her better if he/she also thinks the same.
Don’t judge your partner or anyone. Because judgement prevents you from thinking clearly and it can destroy your happiness which is not worthy. Judgment can make you jump into a conclusion real quick. If you stop yourself from making a judgement, that means you let yourself time to breathe and get to know the problem in details. That’s when you can calm your mind and act smart.
Expectation and judgement make you conservative and unreasonable. They take away your wisdom because you are overwhelmed by disappointment, anger and stress. But if you know how to throw away all your expectation, you will live a happier life. Your soul will feel free to face anything because you won’t see it as a bad thing anymore, but a part of life. You will live your life more realistically.
Love yourself for who you are and your partner the same. Remember love is simple. Just look at the kids and you'll know what love truly is.
“Throw away all your expectations into the sea and let the waves take it far. Now live your life without it. That’s when you know how to love…”
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