Self-healing

We all go through stages of difficulties, distress or even traumas in our lives. We all have different sufferings physically or mentally. When life is never an easy road to anyone, we must have once felt sad, hurt or heartbroken. Some will face the pain, but some will ignore it. No matter what our choice is, we all need self-healing to be able to move forward.

Some friends come to me and share with me their feelings experienced from breakups, family issues, relationship problems, work challenges, etc. I have heard many stories and also been through mine. Besides illness, I've realised there's nothing that can drain your body energy as quickly and completely as stress. Everybody knows not to let negative energy from mean people or events in life get to you, but sometimes it's easy said than done, especially when it comes from somebody that you care about or love. Then, most of the time, we end up with such stupid anxiety, distress or hurt feeling.

Let me tell you one thing - The people who hurt you or being mean to you won't care because putting you down makes them feel better at themselves. Then, why should you let them be so important when they don't deserve it? You have confidence and great potentials that they are lack, so talk to yourself, motivate yourself, build yourself a statue to stand strong and preserve your precious energy. And remember self-healing is a great tool whenever you need to recover your body energy.

What is self-healing?

We all witness our body's ability to heal itself every time we have a cut or a bruise. Self-healing is a series of activities aiming to kick-start your recovery system to fully heal you from wounds, illness or any mental imbalance.

Learning to retain your energy will change your lives physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

How to heal yourself?

Stress causes inflammation. Inflammation is toxic to the body. The best way to start healing yourself is to bring a feeling of peace into your body. I have started by breathing deep, meditating and connecting to my inner peace.

It's not easy to let go of the hurt feeling because once it touches your mind and breaks your heart, it seems to stay there forever. But trust me, living in the hurt feeling prevents you from doing so many great things that you are more capable of than you think. Your energy is precious and shouldn't get wasted for so long on hurt feeling. Those toxic people don't deserve your energy at all.

So use your thoughts and emotions to change the frequency and the flow of your energy. Your day can move in a new direction that will guarantee you are inviting ease, flow and even "miracles" into your life. With the determination of building my own statue of values stronger and tougher, and stopping noises from clouding my head, I've told myself "Enough is enough!". That moment was when I decided to step up my game and forever let go of toxic people to focus on what and who matters to me the most.

I've done lots of researches and read many sources to find out the best solution for myself. Today, I would like to share with you 10 tips to preserve your energy, find your balance and heal yourself whenever you're off-track.

1. Value yourself: Treat yourself with kindness, respect, and avoid self-criticism. Make time for your hobbies and favourite things you enjoy doing, or broaden your activities. Do a daily crossword puzzle, read books, plant a garden, cook a new recipe, take yoga lessons, learn to play an instrument or become fluent in another language.

2. Take care of your body: Taking care of yourself physically can improve your mental health. Be sure to:

• Eat nutritious meals.

• Avoid smoking or vaping.

• Drink plenty of water.

• Exercise, which helps decrease depression, anxiety and improve moods.

• Get enough sleep. Researchers believe that lack of sleep contributes to a high rate of depression.

3. Edit your circle of friends: Surround yourself with good people. People with a strong family or social connections are generally healthier than those who lack a support network. Make plans with supportive family members and friends, or seek out activities where you can meet new people, such as a class or support groups.

4. To give is to heal: Devote time and energy to help your loved ones or others in help. Devote without digital distractions. You'll feel good about doing something tangible to help someone in need, to unplug and connect.

5. Learn how to deal with stress: Stress is a part of life no matter if you like it or not. Everyone has different ways to deal with stress. I find exercising, going out for a walk, meditating or praying easy to do but efficiently calm you down and create more positivity after that. Also, remember to smile and see the humour in life. Research shows that laughter can boost your immune system, ease pain, relax your body and reduce stress.

6. Set your mind in silence: Practice meditating, be mindful and pray. Relaxation exercises and prayer can improve your state of mind and outlook on life. Everybody needs silent moments to be alone, breathe, reflect and recharge.

7. Set realistic goals: Decide what you want to achieve academically, professionally and personally, and write down the steps that will lead you to achieve your goals. Aim high, but be realistic and don't over-schedule. You'll enjoy a tremendous sense of accomplishment and self-worth as you progress towards your goals.

8. Challenge yourself out of your comfort zone: Although having a monotony makes us more efficient and enhance our feelings of security and safety, a little change of routine sometimes can perk up a tedious schedule. Go hiking, plan a road-trip, have a walk in a different park, learn a new language, cook a new recipe, try a new restaurant or learn a new skill.

9. Avoid bad habits: A glass of wine accompanies your dinner or a cocktail by the beach is a nice enjoyment. However, drinking to get drunk helps nothing towards your body or mind, but even makes it worse. Avoid alcohol, drugs or any bad habits if you want to retain your energy and embrace efficient self-healing.

10. Get help when you need it: Seeking help is a sign of strength, not a weakness. Don't hold it to yourself because communication, sharing and connection are what we are made of. We all need help in life at some points, so reach out to the right people and the right solution will help you heal.

Conclusion

As humans, we all have our limits and get tired, burnout, sad or depressed when facing difficulties and challenges. Pushing ourselves to overcome, then healing ourselves afterwards to recharge our energy. There are times you feel down and hurt by the mean words of others and it's normal. There are times you feel heartbroken by the ones you love the most and it's a part of life.

You are allowed to be upset and it's okay not to be okay. You are allowed to take time to be with the feeling, and it's not weak. It's the strength of facing and adjusting the feeling. Be with your feeling to fully understand them, then start healing yourself. That's the only way to rebalance and earn back your energy to move forward stronger and better.